I'm fairly transparent about one thing: It took me a very long time to like myself. Looking back on it, I can't really identify exactly where the loathing came from, but there was a very extended period of my life in which I was simply getting by in an odd funk of depression and self-contempt. Yes, it is as horrible as it sounds, and if you are going through similar issues, I understand. Really, I do. It took me a LONG TIME to become comfortable in my own skin. If it wasn't apparent in my … [Read more...] about The Barnacles
Who are you? It's such a basic question, but it always shocks me how many of us don't actually know the answer. If you think about it, she's really a foundational question. Everything you do stems from answering the simple question. Yet, it would appear as though it is almost something we are taught to avoid. In the process of goal setting, it is critically important. This one simple question forms the basis of any type of personal mission statement you can ever come up with. If you don't … [Read more...] about Who are you?
"Greatness" is a funny concept. In most definitions, the concept of Greatness becomes subjective and difficult to quantify and qualify. Psychology is derived from philosophy. That grey area, if you will. In writing about the topic, I often run into the "10,000 hour" rule as popularized by Malcolm Gladwell. This suggests that 10,000 hours of practice (specifically DELIBERATE practice) will get you there. Sounds nice, but its not accurate. In fact, that number was simply the mean average in a … [Read more...] about On Greatness
"We are what we pretend to be, so we should be very careful about what we pretend to be." - Kurt Vonnegut Language is crucially important. What we say, in the confines of our own mind, has far reaching consequences. It is not a stretch to say that we really ARE what we say we are. I am as guilty of this as anyone, which is odd when you consider my background in Performance Psychology. When you work with enough athletes, and do enough self-reflection, it becomes evident that no one will … [Read more...] about What You Pretend to Be
Recently I chose to walk away from a job training at a corporate gym. Chose to... I had actually traveled to New York City for the sole purpose of taking this job while working towards my NY Massage Therapy Licensure. Unfortunately, I was miserable. I should have known better. Instead of wallowing in it any longer than I had to, I left. I made a choice. Sometimes we find ourselves caught up in bad situations and have this idea that we are stuck or trapped. In … [Read more...] about You Must Choose