Ah, Self-Handicapping. I mentioned this in my previous post about Failure Avoidance, and I would be remiss if I didn't go a bit deeper on this one. As long as I am offering you some performance psychology tidbits to help you with yourself or with clients, I might as well start with the ones I am notorious for using. After all, I know them quite well. Self-Handicapping is when we have excuses readily available so that, in the event of a failure, we are able to justify why we didn't … [Read more...] about “About Last Night” – Self-Handicapping
Mythology always fascinated me. In fact, one of the better general education courses that I took was an introduction to comparative mythology, and I found it to be one of those classes that has stuck with my long after my degree was completed. (Part of this had to do with the fact that the professor was an AMAZING Iranian atheist, but that story is for another time.) Through the ages, myths have been used to describe the unknown; a way to address the hows and whys of the world long before … [Read more...] about The Myth: What is Your Story?
I know that when you lose everything, you find out what you actually have. And, trust me, you WILL lose much in your life. To think otherwise is naive and unrealistic. You will fail and fall... When you find yourself in the position of lacking two nickels to rub together, you realize who only stuck around for your status. When you have to trade in the NEW BMW and downgrade to a leased Fiat, you learn who your real friends are...quickly. You can say what you want about that car. I … [Read more...] about Interlude: What I know
The hardest course I took while working towards my Bachelor's in Sport Psychology was MOST DEFINITELY Counseling Techniques. This class involved practical applications of counseling techniques and strategies and was a hands-on course. This meant that it required us to act as a therapist for another student, and then get critiqued by other classmates and graded by the professor, who so happened to be a licensed Clinical Psychologist. Something that becomes glaringly obvious, VERY quickly, in a … [Read more...] about The Art of Listening
My parents wanted me to be a doctor or a lawyer. I don't have children, but I suppose thats what happens when you see intellectual potential in a child: you want to see them reach the pinnacle in a profession that society deems to be challenging and prestigious. There was ONE small problem: Both professions completely disinterested me. I lacked direction in high school. I was the student who was smart enough to never study and always get high and still maintain decent grades. This resulted … [Read more...] about Me, Part 2: Learning and Leading