We forget what should be our PRIMARY goal… above all others… Learn to love yourself.
I tend to be a bit of a goal setting geek with clients.
I’ve said it before: You need to know where you are headed if you actually want to get there. Makes sense, right?
But sometimes we get so bogged down that we forget to drive down into the heart of our goals, ard reach an understanding that the journey is even more important than the destination.
On the surface, I used to deal with this by explaining to clients that PROCESS goals were much more important than PERFORMANCE or OUTCOME goals. Performance and outcomes are often uncontrollable and can be at the mercy of many outside forces. As well, focusing only on outcomes can cause you to believe that you have “failed” and not see all of the progress you have made through your journey. With this in mind, process goals rock: you get a tiny victory every day based on something that you can actually control!
Recently, however, I have taken this in a completely different direction.
I have asked my clients to set aside room for one primary goal. A process goal that is so important everyone should have it:
Make it a goal to love yourself.
At some time, each day, remind yourself that simply giving your best every day is the greatest victory that you could ever attain, and that the only “failure” is not trying.